http://www.romancedictionary.com/brad — How to get a guy back that you pushed away – how do I get him to want me back.
“I pushed my boyfriend away and now I want him back.” How you wish you could just turn back time so you could undo your actions, right? You regret pushing him away but at the time you just felt it was the right thing to do. Maybe you thought there was a better suited guy out there for you or perhaps you just didn’t like one habit your boyfriend had. Regardless, you’re now faced with the prospect of having to live the rest of your life apart from him and filled with regret. We all make mistakes and fortunately most of those mistakes are un-doable. You can erase the past and pull him closer to you again. The man you love can be yours again if you handle yourself in just the right away.
An apology can move mountains if it’s presented correctly. You have to make amends for pushing your boyfriend away. You can’t ignore the fact that you hurt him. By apologizing you’re killing two birds with one stone. You’re showing him that you have regrets and you’re also demonstrating that you’re mature enough to recognize your shortcomings. The thing with making an apology this monumental is that it has be simple. It may feel necessary to pull out all the stops by writing him a long love letter or buying him an expensive gift. Don’t fall into that trap. All you really need to do is let him know that you regret pushing him away and you’re sorry for all the pain it’s caused him.
You have to also show your boyfriend that you’ve learned from your mistake and you’re ready to put in all the effort it takes to make him see what he means to you. Telling him this is going to fall on deaf ears. Right now he’s likely still reeling from being dumped by you so you need to instead let your actions speak for you. Do that by being there for him without pressuring him into something more than he’s ready for. Establish yourself as a person he can rely on, not someone who is at the ready to hurt him. Be supportive and friendly and as caring as he’ll allow you to be.
Crying when you’re around him is going to feel natural. The problem with that is it shows him how weak you are. As women we see emotional outbursts as a sign that the person is feeling things deeply. If our guy was crying in front of us we’d be touched by that. Men don’t view it the same. If you are always upset because you feel so badly about pushing him away, he’ll push you away. He wants to be around people who are positive and happy. Let him see that you can be that person too.
You both know the pain you’ve been through but that doesn’t have to be a part of your future together. By demonstrating to your ex boyfriend that you’ve come to see what a mistake you’ve made and that you’ve changed because of that, he’ll see a mature and responsible woman before him. Give him time to forgive you and in the meantime be a positive and uplifting force in his life. He’ll come around and you’ll be right there waiting to make your second chance really count.
After a painful breakup, it’s easy to to fall into “panic mode” and fight to get your relationship back. When a woman says “I just want to figure out how to make him want me back” that usually means nothing they do seems to be working. But trying too hard can actually backfire on you and push your ex even farther away. It’s important to learn how to work in harmony with your ex boyfriend’s natural instincts so you can draw him towards you. Let’s get you on the right track so you can get him back as quickly as possible.
When you’re on the verge of losing the love of your life forever, it’s easy to desperately fight to win them back. The fear of loss can cause you to behave in ways that are out of character for you, but you do them anyways because you’re not thinking clearly.
It’s important to get these panicky feelings under control. If your ex senses that you’re chasing after them and pushing to get back together, his natural reaction is going to be to pull away from you.
In order to get him back, you have to create an environment where he doesn’t feel pressured and allow him some time to miss you.
It’s best to give the relationship a break. How long? up to a month is ideal. During this time off don’t call, write love letters, show up where he is, argue about the relationship, try to convince him to take you back, etc.
Take advantage of this break to work on improving yourself and building up your inner strength and independence. When you finally do get back in contact with your ex, he will see the improvements and be much more open to getting back together.
This works partially because guys tend to want what they can’t have. If you throw yourself at him and make yourself totally available, he can’t help but take you for granted. By showing him that you’re strong and independent, and that you’re doing fine without him, he will appreciate you much more and be naturally drawn towards you.